A fine dilemma

To make a clear prejudice in the very beginning, here I declare that this isn't about my own relationship (it may have some impact to this writing but I don't know where the exact point is). My position here as a life time observer and friends of many kind of person who was involved, involve, and will involve in a relationship itself. I find it peculiarly confusing so I just want to share my confusion.

There is a fine dilemma on how's the relationship supposed to be. If it supposed to be care with each other, how far they two should care. How far they two could called as 'they didn't care anymore'. How is the proper standard for 'care' itself. If the one feels care enough when the other one didn't, what standard do they should obey. And vice versa, if the one willing to shows they care-ness when the other get it annoying, although there will be no rigid standard, who is right and who is wrong. The one who being care or annoyed?

There is a fine dilemma on how's the relationship supposed to be. If it supposed to be being tolerant to each other faults, how far they two should bear. Not to counting each other take and give points, but really, do they should keep rational or just stay irrational for the sake of love. Sometimes rationality wouldn't make their relationship works cause there're much more thing beyond. Sometimes irrationality trapped them two, in a deep pond of fragile lullaby (which is dangerous?). But the worst is, when the one want to keep it realistic and the other one more likely to connive in the irrational side. Which one they should choose. Do they should choose? Yes they do, at least to compromise which quadrant do they stand together.

There is a fine dilemma on how's the relationship supposed to be. How far the significant other take part in it. Do they keep their friends, family, to be the 'supporter' of the relationship or they should put it on the core of relationship. Is a relationship without the significant other's permissions still have to be works? Is a relationship with the cherish of significant other have to be works, like they have a special duties to eliminate the obstacles?

There is a fine dilemma on how's the relationship supposed to be. If it supposed to be accompanying each other through anything, bad times and good times, when they did not, what's left to make the relationship work still? To decide whether it called a proper 'accompanying' through good times and bad times with each other presence, another problem appealingly come. 'He/she not here when I need him/her the most', that sentence, how many they two should bear. When is the right time to say enough and goodbye, and when is the time to keep holding on. To follow emotion and say a too soon goodbye, a great regret that hard to heal will rise. To just act cool and fine with the hidden loneliness (while you are actually in the relationship), another unfunny misery will emerge.

There is a fine dilemma on how's the relationship supposed to be. Maybe a good communication can help.And the forgiveness. And set aside the ego. And the other positive things. But frankly there're very speak-able variables but not really applicable.

I don't know. I randomly remember this phrase, someone who fall in love should never look back. I think it have some good value to see this confusion. Whatever, should never look back.

Ah. I don't know.